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How To Become Incredibly Attractive To Women By Fixing One Simple Thing
Author : Veronica Esselink
Submitted : 2011-11-15 Word Count : 870 Popularity: Not Rated
Tags: approach women
These days, there are a lot of techniques, tricks, as well as routines available to the average guy, that promise to help him "get the girl."
Unfortunately, most of that stuff being sold out there rarely works to help you get more dates, if at all.
You see, at the end of the day, giving a bunch of techniques is useless to a guy if he is certainly too nervous, anxious or even afraid to approach women. If he can't bolster up the courage to walk up and also talk to a beautiful woman, none of the techniques or "lines" will work ever work because he will never get to use any of them.
And even, even if he did somehow pump himself up as well as drum up enough courage to approach a woman, that woman will see through his fake and/or temporary 'confidence' and also will probably rip him to shreds.
The hotter the woman is, the quicker she will send the guy running off with his tail between his legs. (If you've ever tried approaching a "10," you may have already experienced this personally.)
So... if you ever want to "fix" your dating life and even your ability to attract along with date beautiful women - permanently, you must fix your mind first! Or else, everything else you do will be a waste of time. None of it will work unless you work on adopting the seductive mindset first!
The average guy walks into the dating game with the belief that he has to impress a woman by showing her - or telling her about - his success, riches, status, fame, connection, etc.
Along with while those things may get some women's attention, it will rarely work to attract them to you. Moreover, the women that do get attracted to you because of your money, success, or status will almost always be the wrong kind of women, i.e. gold diggers, who are not interested in you, but only in your money and/or success.
The same is certainly true for guys who are "good looking" plus only use their looks to try to seduce women. Again, that will only attract women who are interested in how you look - not in who you are. (Plus, we all know that "looks" are always temporary.)
And, even if you did happen to attract a women with just your looks, if you don't have anything else going for the purpose of you - besides your good looks, the average woman will lose interest in you very quickly. She will get bored and even move on. (It's the equivalent of choosing a gift with the shinest wrapper, unwrapping it, and also being disappointed at what you find inside.)
Unless you've worked on adopting the right mindset, none of the other stuff will work. And, if that other stuff does work, it will usually attract the wrong kind of women...so the 'success' you achieve will be very temporary.
So...in order to become genuinely attractive to women, without relying on money, status, good looks or shiny new clothes, you have to know and understand what women are really attracted to! (Not what they say or think they're attracted to - but what they are really attracted to.)
And even, in order to understand what women are attracted to, you must first understand as well as really "get" what women are not attracted to. You must understand what women are turned off - or even repelled - by.
As well as you must learn to never do those things around women.
Here's a list of some of the most common "turn offs" plus repulsive behaviors:
1. Being too nervous, fidgety, anxious, in awe of, and generally uncomfortable around her. (That is definitely where by we started, remember?)
2. Trying to impress her by showing - or telling her about - your car, house, bank account, job, connections, etc.
3. Trying to be macho, arrogant, egotistic, a jerk, a "bad boy" etc. (Yes, some women are attracted to jerks or "bad boys" but pretending to be one of those guys will only backfire on you. Remember, getting "pumped up" before approaching her isn't the best strategy to use.)
4. Being too "nice," agreeing with everything she says, kissing up to her, or any specific such behavior - in hopes of trying to make her "like" you.
5. Trying too hard to keep the conversation going, not being comfortable enough to just talk and even have fun naturally, as well as even trying too hard to be funny.
The first one, #1, listed above is definitely one of the main reasons guys don't attract women. It is definitely also a big reason as to why the other turn-offs, listed in numbers 2 - 5 exist.
When you're uncomfortable around beautiful women (or women in general,) nothing else will work in your favor, especially not techniques or pickup lines that you've practiced for the purpose of hours.
When you're uncomfortable, you will try to impress her too much, you will pretend to be macho and confident, you will kiss up to her, and even you will even try too hard to keep the conversation interesting and/or flowing naturally.
There are many techniques you can use to "fix" this specific problem - from easy to complex, from quick to more time-consuming.
One of the easiest ways to become comfortable around women is certainly to stop trying to attract them or date them (for now)... along with just start talking to them - as if they were any specific other stranger you happened to come across, i.e. a woman you're not attracted to, a child, or even a guy.
Simply start talking to women - all women, anywhere plus everywhere. Talk to them as you would another human being. Stop trying to impress them or seduce them.
If that is not easy intended for you to do, start by talking to women you're not attracted to - as mentioned above.
And also start by simply saying "Hi" or "Hello."
Do not worry about how they respond. Just do it - with a friendly smile. And also, instead of letting their response affect you emotionally, simply observe what they do or say.
Think of it as a social experiment. Imagine the entire world is actually your laboratory.
Remember, your goal here is not to attract or seduce her. It's to simply get your mind (and body) to become comfortable with the idea of talking to women.
It's a gradual process, so don't force it too much. Plus, don't beat yourself up over it either.
Just think of it as practice. Any specific sport or activity that you want to get good at requires practice. And even, at first it may seem slow-going, but things will pick up speed as you continue working as well as putting in the time.
So, just do it, and also forget about the results intended for now. (Just think of it as a social experiment, as I mentioned earlier.)
Say "Hi" or Hello" to random strangers for a week, wherever you see them.
Then, add "How are you?" plus do that for another week. (If they start talking to you, then obviously respond in like.)
Then, for the purpose of the next week, try to have (read: initiate) an actual conversation with them meant for at least a minute or two. (Talk about the weather, their cool hat, or whatever. Just get used to the idea of talking to strangers.)
The more comfortable you become with doing this particular, the better, as well as more positively, they will respond to you. Along with, this particular constant, upward cycle will continue to feed itself - as you become more comfortable along with competent.
Plus of course, learn from each experience. Remember to pay attention to as much of what's going on as possible. (This particular will also force you to get out of your own head and also focus your attention on them. That's a good thing.)
Remember, don't take anything they say or do personally, but pay attention to the process. As well as, use that to improve your conversation skills for the purpose of approaching complete strangers and also getting them to open up to you.
Only after you have become comfortable with the process can you start adding (and even using) some conversation techniques to your strategy.
Remember, what we discussed earlier... the mindset needs to be fixed first; techniques come later.
And even now, you can be ready to learn my other pickup techniques, advanced conversation tactics, attraction tips and also seduction tricks revealed in my free dating tip blog.
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